November 2020 SAGE Newsletter

Associate Executive Director

Join me in welcoming our new staff member.  Jonathan comes to us with years of experience in the LGBTQ+ community, working most previously with the Trevor Project.  He brings with him not only a vast knowledge of the community, but all the excitement and passion that we need to serve our community and help us increase our visibility.  One of the first things he was tasked with was to help with the Road Rally and he did not disappoint!  Thanks Jonathan for all your hard work and dedication.  Welcome to the Utah Pride Center. 

From Jonathan: 
I am so excited to join the Utah Pride Center Family. With over ten years of non-profit and fundraising experience I look forward to working with the Utah community. My passion is giving back to my community. I want to devote my life to making the world a better place. I know first-hand how important the work of the Center is as I have a story that is familiar to many people in our community. When I came out I was told that I could not live at home anymore and that I didn’t belong. I found help and resources that saved my life at the Sacramento LGBT Center. Much like that first center I was associated with, the Utah Pride Center saves lives and makes the world a better place. I am here because I want to elevate our voice across Utah.  I am dedicated to helping make our incredible programs and services available to everyone across the state. 
I LOVE our senior program! Although I joined the staff mid-Covid, I am anxious to becoming very involved with SAGE and the seniors in the future.  When it is safe again, I am looking forward to attending some of the events that I have heard about .  A few years ago I did a special SAGE photoshoot. Check it out here:
I know that creating a safe place for everyone is key to our life saving mission.  We as the Pride Center staff strive to make everyone who enters here feel like they are home. I  am thrilled to join this amazing and critical organization. I look forward to getting to know each our of supporters, volunteers and all of our community members. Feel free to reach out to me and say hi! [email protected]


 I wanted to reach out to you, our Qmmunity organization friends and partners, to thank you all for participating and supporting the Pride 2.0 Road Rally. While some of you were there in cars, some in Qmmunity Pits, and some in sprit, I wanted to let you all know how much we appreciated everything everyone did to make the event so special.I also want to let you know that the queer communities of Utah are alive, well and still ready celebrating our diverse and wonderful intersectional identities – even though we have all gone through so much together these last few months. The smiles, laughter, and joy was palpable. It was just, quite simply, a joyous event for all. I think what this event showed me was how much our communities needed to be together, and how much joy and hope there still is in our resilient queer friends and families. The Utah Pride Center, has, and will continue to work hard to be a space that brings our communities together. To see people – young, old, black, brown, trans, queer, non-binary, bisexual, lesbian, gay – smiling, and laughing and celebrating together was one of the most wonderful days that I have experienced this year. We know that we are best when we are all working together and when we are connected in a common purpose. I know that as we all continue to support each other and our fellow organizations, we will be able to rebuild our services, our resources and our LGBTQ+ spaces. 

 I am so proud and humbled to be working at the Utah Pride Center and to be partners with such amazing community groups and nonprofits. Special thanks to, the staff and volunteers who stepped up when the going got tough, our sponsors and donors who contributed much needed funding and everyone who created an experience for the LGBTQ+ communities of Utah that will long be remembered.  

Yours in Pride, Dr. Rob Moolman


Speaking of the Road Rally, I’d like to recognize John Johnson, Director of Operations.  When we realized we would not be able to hold our Pride Festival this year, we were all sad.  But more than that, we realized we would not have the funds that the festival brings in.  Our lifesaving work is not possible without fundraising and the generosity of donors and grants.  Facing a very bleak future without a festival, John got to work. He created the idea, brought together a team, worked tirelessly with City, County and State leaders to create a safe, socially distant, yet exciting way to bring our community together.  Thank you from the bottom of our collective hearts John Johnson!

The entire team was amazing and contributed to the success of the event. Thanks so much to everyone who joined, raised money, planned, worked outreach and contributed to this event!  It was incredibly heartwarming to see so much support for our community, our center and our work.
2020 STYLE!

The Utah Pride Center and Clever Octopus have teamed up for their second annual Not Yo’ Mama’s Winter Market!COVID-19 has changed how we celebrate the holidays with those we love most. Let them know you’re thinking about them with a one-of-a-kind gift from our featured local artists.How it works: Browse through our featured products made available on November 9th and follow links to their online shops, which will include more information on payment, shipping, pick-up and delivery options.The market will open November 9 and close December 18th.

Shop with over 25 vendors by visiting the website below.  http://

Here is the powerful, calming question you may be forgetting to ask yourself.   Anxiety is driven by the reacting part of our brains. When you sense something that seems threatening, your body releases cortisol, the stress hormone that springs your body into action. This is called the stress response. For the ancient beings this meant being on the ready to fight, take flight, or freeze (play dead) when facing scary threats, such as a fearsome saber tooth tiger.While in modern life you thankfully don’t meet any saber-toothed tigers, everyday challenges can still make you feel very anxious—thanks to your old-school reacting brain. Usually two words driven by our anxious minds—What If?—lead the charge. Examples of “What If’s” modern day life include:

Work demands: “This new boss is so demanding and seems impossible to please! What if I lose my job!”

Time constraints: “What if I can’t supervise my son’s virtual schooling (or get him to in-person school) and be at work on time!

Relationship pressures: He is so nice but what if he dumps me?

Societal pressures: “I am so scared about these tumultuous times we now live in! “What if this country falls apart!”Information overload: “Shoot, I thought I saw your email, (or text) I meant to respond, so sorry this slipped through! What if things like this keep falling through the cracks!”

Your Reacting Brain Can Be Tamed by Your Thinking Brain
Fortunately, there’s another part of your brain, called the prefrontal cortex (the “thinking” part). The main job of the prefrontal cortex is to provide logical thinking to help control your emotional responses to stress so that you don’t get too stressed out and overreact.If you place your finger on your forehead, you’ll be about as close as you can get to touching your prefrontal cortex. Your prefrontal cortex can rein in your stress response, slowing down the release of cortisol—if it determines that whatever your amygdala is freaking out about is not in fact a threat or if it recognizes that the situation is manageable. This logical thinking part of your brain is very important for helping you manage anxiety and not overreact. This helps you make good choices. And as you’ll see, often when you feel stressed out, you have to consciously remember to turn to your thinking brain to gain back control from your reacting brain.

The Seven Word Question That Comes To The Rescue!
Realizing how “What-ifs” can really get your mind racing, you can use the power of “What is the worst thing that can happen?”  to slow them down.

The following sanity saving activity is from my latest book, The Anxiety, Depression, and Anger Toolbox for Teens, and it is applicable for all ages.Close your eyes and reflect on the “what-ifs” that you have struggled with in the past and those that still come into your mind. Fill in the “what-ifs” blanks below. As you do so, reflect on each “What-if ” and think about how it gets in your way. Now think, in earnest about this commonly undervalued, seven word question, which is your antidote to stress and anxiety: “What is the worst thing that can happen?”

Here’s an example to help you get started.What if I lose my job while trying to take care of my kids during this pandemic?“The worst thing that could happen is I will have to look for another job, which may even be more suited to balancing the current demands in my life. And, even if it ends up taking me longer then I’d like to get a new job, it helps to remind myself about those times in the past when I have discovered ways to cope in really hard times. Actually, now thinking about this all more reasonably, I think I am going to proactively speak to my supervisor and see if there is something we can work out to make this current situation more manageable for me.

Now, fill in the blanks below and give the power of this seven word question a try for some of the stressors you would like to manage better:

What if ____________________________________________________________________? The worst thing that could happen is ________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________

What if ____________________________________________________________________? The worst thing that could happen is ________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________

What if ____________________________________________________________________? The worst thing that could happen is ________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________

Bernstein, J. (2020). The Anxiety, Depression, & Anger Toolbox for Teens, Eau Claire, WI: PESI Publishing.Bernstein, J. (2015). 10 Days to a Less Defiant Child (2nd Ed.) Perseus Books, New York, NY.Bernstein J. (2009) Liking the Child You Love, Perseus Books, New York, NY. Bernstein, J. (2019). The Stress Survival Guide for Teens. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications.Bernstein, J. (2017). Letting go of Anger—Card deck for teens. Eau Claire, WI: PESI Publishing.Bernstein, J. (2017). Mindfulness for Teen Worry: (Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications)
Posted Oct 01, 2020 – Psychology Today
Written by: Jeffrey Bernstein Ph.D.
Hosted by GenderevolutionUtah Pride Center and TransActionGenderevolution is Salt Lake City’s annual gender conference held every November as part of Trans Education & Awareness Month (TEAM) This year Genderevolution 2020: Shattering Binaries 
Friday & Saturday, November 13&14, 2020
We have three amazing speakers you do not want to miss!
Lydia X. Z. Brown – Autistic Hoya
,Kay Ulanday Barrett
Schuyler Bailar, Pinkmantaray
We’ll also have over 30 workshops to choose from ranging from healthcare professionals, doctors, lawyers, educators, caregivers and plenty of amazing community members on topics like Trans 101, Autism and Gender, Transgender Sex Education, Legal Name and Gender Marker Change, Self Care Workshop, Hormone Replacement Therapy, Loving your LGBTQ+ children, Transitioning as a Family, How to Raise Gender Creative Children, Safety in Schools, Feminizing and Masculinizing Surgeries, Intersex Awareness and so much more! Please register now at this link, spots are limited!

To Register:
Tickets · $15 – $50

We do not want cost to be a barrier for anyone. If you need a scholarship, please fill out this form:
POST ELECTION SUPPORT GROUPThe truth is this election has been difficult for everyone.  The last four years have been difficult for most of the people in our community.  If you want to talk and want to connect for support, please join us on this virtual call.Register at 
NEWS FROM SAGE NATIONALLast night, Lambda Legal, on behalf of SAGE and seven other plaintiffs, sued the Trump administration over the President’s Executive Order banning diversity training. Read more here:
 ******************************************************************************************LIVE ONIf you are struggling, please reach out.  This time of year is difficult for many and with the added stress of the presidential election, we know that emotions are running high.  There is help. 

We have a very active suicide prevention team led by Katie Perkins, Director of Suicide Prevention for the Utah Pride Center.  Thank you Katie for all of your great work for the Pride Center and at a State Suicide Prevention level.

Website:   http://

Help Line:  1 800 273 TALK  (8255)
Covid Related StressCovid stress is very real.   If you are experiencing any stress or feel that you need a little support from our partners at Utah Strong.  ****************************************************************************************** 
Seventy percent of Americans support same-sex marriage, according to the 11th annual American Values Survey, the highest percentage recorded by a major national poll. The results, released Monday, found just 28 percent of respondents oppose the right of gay couples to wed.Approval crossed the political divide, with majorities of Democrats (80 percent) and independents (76 percent) supporting same-sex marriage, and 50 percent of Republicans, according to the poll conducted by the Public Religion Research Institute (PRRI) in partnership with the Brookings Institution.Most major religious denominations back marriage equality, too, including white mainline Protestants (79 percent), Hispanic Roman Catholics (78 percent), religious non-Christians (72 percent) Hispanic Protestants (68 percent), white Catholics (67 percent), Black Protestants (57 percent) and other Christian denominations (56 percent).Religiously unaffiliated Americans were the most supportive, with 90 percent endorsing same-sex marriage.White evangelicals stood out as the only denomination where a majority opposed same-sex marriage, 63 percent to 34 percent. Support decreased among this group, according to PRRI, which found 41 percent of white evangelicals supported gay marriage in a 2019 survey.
 Frederick Haynes, senior pastor at Friendship West Baptist Church, a Black megachurch in Dallas, said he’s not surprised by that last number. “White evangelicals have not valued justice and equality,” Haynes told NBC News. “Their definition of Christian is limited to a few ‘red meat’ issues. I mean, for them, racism is not a dealbreaker when it comes to supporting politicians.”While his church welcomes same-sex couples, Haynes admits some parishioners may be uncomfortable with them on a personal level. But they believe strongly in equality under the law.“We don’t want to become the monster of intolerance and inequality that we’ve fought for 400 years,” he said. “I think justice and the humanity of all of God’s creations is a supreme value in the African American community, especially in the Christian community. When you marry that with the American value of equality, it becomes a no-brainer.”PPRI’s poll continues a trend of acceptance that has been growing for more than 30 years: In a University of Chicago poll from 1988, only 11 percent of Americans supported same-sex marriage, with 68 percent opposing it. Proponents outnumbered opponents for the first time in 2009 — 49 percent to 46 percent — according to an ABC News/Washington Post poll.Those numbers continued to climb, especially after the Supreme Court enshrined the freedom of gay couples to marry nationwide in 2015’s Obergefell v. Hodges ruling. One year later, a May 2016 Gallup poll found 61 percent of Americans supported same-sex marriage, and 37 percent opposed it. This past June, a Gallup poll put support at 67 percent, matching a previous high measured in 2018.PRRI’s latest results represent a notable increase even from last year’s American Values Survey, when 62 percent of respondents said they supported same-sex marriage.“My hunch is if there’s a second Trump administration, the issue of marriage equality won’t be on the table,” said William Galston, a senior fellow at the Brookings Institution.“I would be surprised if the majority of the Supreme Court viewed it as ‘settled law,’” he told NBC News. However, if the justices made a ruling contradicting the sentiments of 70 percent of the population, he added, “you’re going to have people questioning the legitimacy of the court.”PPRI polled 2,538 American adults from Sept. 9 to 22 on a wide variety of topics, including Covid-19, climate change, racial inequality and their views of the presidential candidates.More than 8 in 10 (83 percent) said they supported laws protecting LGBTQ people against discrimination in employment, housing and public accommodations, compared to just 16 percent against such laws.A majority of Democrats (94 percent), independents (85 percent) and Republicans (68 percent) all supported legal protections for LGBTQ Americans — as did majorities in all religious groups, from 59 percent among white evangelicals to 86 percent of Black Protestants.Haynes said such broad approval “portends a bright future for the country, as we aim to be a more perfect union.”
 The Equality Act, which would modify existing civil rights legislation to add protections against discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation and gender identity, passed the Democratic-controlled House in 2019 but has not been taken up by the Republican-led Senate.The Trump administration has largely opposed the Equality Act, however, and took a stand against Bostock v. Clayton County, Georgia, the recent Supreme Court decision that determined that Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964 protected workers from discrimination based on sexual orientation or gender identity.Haynes said the administration is out of touch with “the vast majority of Americans,” adding that they are instead “plugged into their base — white evangelicals.”Galston agreed that there’s a “total disconnect” between the public and the White House, which also banned transgender service members from the military and supports allowing child welfare agencies to reject same-sex prospective parents.‘My guess is the administration figured the people in the Republican coalition who oppose [LGBTQ rights] attach a much higher importance to it than those who favor it,” he said.
 In a campaign season, it’s not unusual to stake everything on mobilizing your base, he added. But after an election, it’s a different matter altogether.“Support for anti-discrimination laws is now at 83 percent — and that includes a solid majority of white evangelicals,” he said. Looking at the survey, passage of sweeping anti-discrimination laws is inevitable. “Any Republican strategist would see support is a no-brainer. The fact that some loud voices say they oppose it to the bitter end is besides the point,” Galston added. “If there’s a second Trump term, he could go for it [the Equality Act] as a way to take some of the many sharp edges off him.”LGBTQ rights was one of the few issues respondents seemed to find common ground on. Only 7 percent of Democrats approve of President Donald Trump’s handling of the pandemic, compared to 78 percent of Republicans. And almost 80 percent of Republicans said police killings of African Americans were isolated incidents not indicative of institutional racism, compared to just 17 percent of Democrats.Eight in 10 Democrats say the GOP has been overrun by racists, while a comparable percentage of Republicans say the Democratic Party has been taken over by socialists.“As we head into the 2020 election during an unprecedented year of multiple crises,” PRRI founder Robert P. Jones said in a statement, “Republicans and Democrats seem to be living in different countries.”Oct. 21, 2020, 10:23 AM MDT
By Dan Avery, NBC News
INSPIRATION STATIONBarely arrived on Monday and it’s already FridayBarely the day started and… it’s already six in the evening.
Barely arrived on Monday and it’s already Friday.
… and the month is already over.
… and the year is almost over.
… and already 40, 50 or 60 years of our lives have passed.
… and we realize that we lost our parents, friends.
and we realize it’s too late to go back…
So… Let’s try, despite everything, to enjoy the remaining time…
Let’s keep looking for activities that we like…
Let’s put some color in our grey…
Let’s smile at the little things in life that put balm in our hearts.
And despite everything, we must continue to enjoy with serenity this time we have left. Let’s try to eliminate the afters…
I’m doing it after…
I’ll say after…
I’ll think about it after…
We leave everything for later like ′′ after ′′ is ours.
Because what we don’t understand is that:
Afterwards, the coffee gets cold…
afterwards, priorities change…
Afterwards, the charm is broken…
afterwards, health passes…
Afterwards, the kids grow up…
Afterwards parents get old…
Afterwards, promises are forgotten…
afterwards, the day becomes the night…
afterwards life ends…
And then it’s often too late….
So… Let’s leave nothing for later…
Because still waiting see you later, we can lose the best moments,
the best experiences,
best friends,
the best family…
The day is today… The moment is now…We are no longer at the age where we can afford to postpone until tomorrow what needs to be done right away.So let’s see if you’ll have time to read this message and then share it.Or maybe you’ll leave it for … “later” …And you will not share it “ever” ….
–By Dean Jones
Carpe Diem!
 This month we are highlighting our Bi-Hive Group.  This group is for those who are 40+ and identify somewhere on the Bi, Pan, Sexually Fluid spectrum.
We meet once per month on the first Thursday of the month at 7:00 PM.  

Bi-Hive is a sub-program of SAGE Utah, which is a program of the UTAH Pride Center. Join us on any or all our calls – there’s a little something for everyone!
 SAGE DAILY CALL 6:30 – 7:30 PMSchedule: 
Monday – Ted Talks
Tuesday – Variety Night
Wednesday – Book Club (listen to books on tape)
Thursday – Trivia Night

BI HIVE 7:00 – 8:00





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 We have someone in Tooele that needs some help around their house with some gardening and some light housework.  Please call 
435 669 6649
 to set up a time if you are able to help.  Thank you!
Program Opportunity for 65+
Neighbors Helping Neighbors with the University of Utah College of Social Work is Offering Weekly Support to Older Adults in the Salt Lake County Area.
Services provided are at no cost to the participant.
ServicesWeekly Support by Social Work Interns (Who have Passed a Background Checked)Comprehensive Needs AssessmentTransportation ServicesMental Health CounselingLinks & Referrals to Community ResourcesEducation on Health and Disease preventionKnowledge of Diversity and Intergenerational NeedsAnd More…
Eligibility65 Years Old +Live in Salt Lake CountyLive Independently in a Home or ApartmentContact InfoIf interested in participating or would like more information about the program, please contact:Erin Davies (She/Her/Hers), MSWiClinical Social Work InternUtah Pride CenterEmail: [email protected]Phone: 
(435) 553-4155
 Regina Campbell, LCSW, MSWDirector of Neighbors Helping NeighborsUniversity of Utah College of Social WorkEmail: [email protected]Phone: 
(801) 585-9156
SOSA – SURVIVOR OF SUICIDE ATTEMPT The Utah Pride Center welcomes you to join this online weekly check-in. This service is provided to all individuals who have attempted suicide. If you need support, someone to chat with, or resources, please join us virtually. We are here to help. We will meet Wednesday evenings from 5:30-6:30 pm.  Please email Chanelle (she/her/hers) for any questions  [email protected]

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